tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3683546417186768820.post7335840665894164877..comments2021-02-13T04:51:17.282-05:00Comments on Nth Wave Feminism: Again with the PronounsKyriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01488063301300315710noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3683546417186768820.post-11841732959094312442011-10-13T15:46:12.104-04:002011-10-13T15:46:12.104-04:00Thank you. That is a really helpful explanation!Thank you. That is a really helpful explanation!Desihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15401789935772205218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3683546417186768820.post-10697153957405154562011-10-13T08:01:30.620-04:002011-10-13T08:01:30.620-04:00Great question! It's pronounced "here.&qu...Great question! It's pronounced "here." A couple of people whom I know prefer ze and hir are okay with people who say "they" and "them" when speaking and use ze and hir in writing.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03275971301824881125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3683546417186768820.post-60028761907607387812011-10-12T23:00:41.065-04:002011-10-12T23:00:41.065-04:00I have a question. How do you pronounce the pronou...I have a question. How do you pronounce the pronoun "hir"? When called upon to use it, I want to be sure to say it properly.Desihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15401789935772205218noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3683546417186768820.post-71236622509190843042011-10-07T12:16:11.913-04:002011-10-07T12:16:11.913-04:00I want to second the idea that it's okay to no...I want to second the idea that it's okay to not care that much about the pronouns used for ourselves and to be very, very much committed to using other peoples' pronouns of choice.<br /><br />Kyrie and I have talked about this before, and we were at the same meeting. I said I had no pronoun preference (and have said that in several other meetings recently, too - I think all "introduce yourself" activities at meetings should include pronoun preference). This is mostly true. I don't care if people call me "she" (most people will. I look like what the mainstream thinks of as a "woman" - long hair, curvy figure, eyeliner - even though lots of men have some/all of these characteristics also). But I don't always dress in the ways that the general population seems to think women dress, though sometimes I do. Sometimes I shop in the women's section, and sometimes I shop in the men's section, because what I'm getting to realize is, I like some clothes/fabrics and I don't like other clothes/fabrics and I want to wear the stuff I like and not the stuff I don't. Whichever section of the store they're in is immaterial to me. I wish clothing stores would stop having gendered departments because that would save me a lot of time while shopping.<br /><br />So that was a rant about clothing, not pronouns, but it's related. I don't feel comfortable shopping exclusively in either department, and I find things that delight me in both. I think this might be where I'm landing with gender, too, and therefore also pronouns. I haven't decided if I have a preference yet. Right now, they're all okay - she/her, he/him, ze/hir, they/them. <br /><br />[I'm about to adopt a drag persona. I think he wants to be called him. We'll get back to you on that.]<br /><br />One more thing: Some of the people who are most important to me in my life have very firm pronoun preferences. I am not saying that we should all be flexible or have no preference in our preferred pronouns. I absolutely 100% respect other peoples' desire to be called what they want to be called. I might settle on something eventually. I might not. I understand that it can be a great source of pain for people to be read as a gender with which they do not identify, and I am very much dedicated to helping educate people about not making assumptions about peoples' gender based on the way they read them.<br /><br />That's it. For now.<br /><br />Except this: I heart you, Kyrie.Jesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03275971301824881125noreply@blogger.com